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WHY DO YOUNG MONGOLIAN LADIES SEEM TO DISPISE AMERICAN WOMEN?

It is easy to point out someone`s flaws, but it`s extremely hard to admit your own. I`m proud of you Joyce, you`re brave to openly admitting your mistakes and actions. As i said nothing`s 100% one side`s wrong. You`ve dealt with horrible people too.

And about horse riding i was born and raised in a city. I rarely left it. So naturally i never learn to ride a horse. But i challenged my self this summer and rode a horse, few times. It was easier than i imagined and i finally felt like a true Mongolian on a horse back. Although i wanted to ride faster people around me forbade it. That i should take it slow. So if i can learn to ride a horse, so can you Joyce! Have fun

Joyce, as a Mongolian woman, I was deeply angered by your comments. I did not have good thoughts about you. I am pleased you have chosen a new path as the one you were on would have ultimately led to a life full of emptiness.  I accept your apology.

I learned to ride a horse as a young child. I was taught by my father as his father before him. I learned to ride without a saddle, which is not uncommon for Mongolian children. I miss riding on the steppe. To answer your question Joyce, I have been able to ride at a full gallop on the back of a horse since a young child. Mongolian children are taught to be fearless when introduced to horses. We are a horse culture after all. Remember, I left Mongolia with my parents when I was 7. I still ride horses in Connecticut, but infrequently and it is not the same.

Good day everyone. Just wanted to say that I believe this thread has run its course and will be my final post. What started as a simple question and answer thread, transcended into 81 comprehensive responses, stretching three pages. By far the liveliest thread on the Mongolian Expat blog. I just wanted to sincerely thank everyone for participating in this quest for answers, and know that you are all great and special people who I wish the very best, and happiness in your future endeavors. My contract with Rio Tinto will come to an end next month (October), therefore will be departing this incredible land. I will miss Mongolia horribly. I am off to South Africa to contract with a mining corporate for an additional year with a possible extension. This is the life of a contract engineer who has decided to work off-shore for the preponderance of his career; which at times can be a lonely one. I will admit, it is very financially rewarding, to include traveling to magnificent countries and meeting their wonderful people - it will all be worth it, when I return to the States one day to finally settle down. I have made some very good friends in UB, and acquaintances that I hope to stay in contact for the rest of my life. I believe I stayed focused and on task while here, however, delighted that I also explored this wonderful land and its beautiful people. I have promised myself that although I love fun and interesting ladies as much as the next guy, I will not get overly-romantically involved with a lady from a foreign land, as I do not want romance to interfere with the professional reasons why I am doing all of this. It has been many years since I have been to the USA for any length of time, and want to stay on course. In saying this, the ladies of Mongolia are the most magnificent, fun and alluring of any ladies I have met during my travels. It has been very difficult for me to stay focused here, as I have developed a very soft spot for the ladies of Mongolia. I am truly sad that in 30 short days, I will be hopping on a plane to Cape Town, leaving everything I have come to love behind. Starting to get mushy now - again, best wishes to you all, and may God bless each one of you.

Hamish

Hamish, I went back and read all of your posts. You are a very clever and interesting man. Expats like you are welcome I am sure wherever you travel. You have received a good experience during your time in Mongolia because you have opened your heart and let it all in without fear, I think you are being too careful in guarding your heart. It is possible to balance a career and relationship. People do it everyday. If you want children one day, the clock is ticking for you. ;) You are a real man Hamish. Too bad you are old enough to be my father ;) God be with you too.

Hamish-

Sounds like you'll be leaving just as the pollution starts getting bad, so kudos on good timing.  Not to mention getting to skip winter entirely to enjoy summer in the Southern Hemisphere.  As for the life of the traveling bachelor, I've done some of that myself and sure it's a mixed bag..... but speaking now as a married man, I say enjoy the hell out of that freedom and plentiful personal/leisure time while you have it  ;)

Well big Ham, happy trails to you. Nickbert said it well, enjoy the “life of the traveling bachelor.” Also, savor the cultures we are so fortunate to brush shoulders with. These memories and experiences mold who we are. By the way, was really glad we were able to finally connect in a real way. Not only do I admire your hollow leg, but the stories you shared with me about places and people you have encountered was nothing less of amazing. Hey… listen to Sarangerel… “If you want children one day, the clock is ticking for you.” You may one day regret not snagging one of the very marriageable Mongolian ladies as did Nickbert. Better here than Africa mate! Those of us selling our services to the mining mafia…… one never knows when our paths will cross again, I hope ours do.

Hello people
We are just different people. As the world's population grows, we all know each other every day. Our language is different, and culture is different, also food. But Everyday We are still united. We /Mongolians/ have become a democratic country in 1990. We are one of the young democracies.
I think Mongolians are learn something quickly because we always eat lots of organic chemicals. Such as Boodog, Hoormog, Airag and some wild animal meats. It is a stain left of our tradition, just like a turkey with thanksgiving.  Sorry about that.  :P
It's time for Americans and even Mongolian women to be afraid of some natives.
Everything that happened to you was terrible. Please apologize for them.
Some Mongolian young girls are attracted to the American men and even the Mongolian men. You are strong women, who care about that girls.
Have you ever been to the city's bus? There will be rough manners there.
As we move forward, the stupidities become increasingly rude, and the smart one is developing themselves. It does not relative on our traditions and the food.
There are good and bad in any society. If we do not have good or bad, we will not use adjective words in our language.  :)

Don't worry too hard, enjoy time in Mongolia. I hope you all make lots of new good friends are here.
Sorry for My English. I still trying to good this language.  ;)

Just checked in and see the OP is leaving us. Good luck Hamish. I have never been to Africa but have always wanted to. I do more blue collar stuff and the opportunities are not there as much. My dad worked on the Alaskan pipeline back in the day and have kind of followed his lead working far away from where I am from. Glad Joyce got everything straightened out. Thank Hamish Joyce before he's gone. He put all this together which helped you get over your fear.

Hamish, last night, my husband and I were eating dinner at Monet's in the Central Tower. He pointed to Ambassador Galt who was at a table near us eating dinner. She was with a group of people. One of those people was a tall blonde guy with the same smile as yours. I could swear it was you. My husband would not let me go and ask with the Ambassador sitting there ;) I know you are getting ready to bon voyage Mongolia, but this has been an itch I can't scratch - was that you? TELL ME!!!! Haa..Haa. By the way, good luck to you in Africa. Are you sure you want to go there? My husband said there is no place more dangerous than Africa. Be careful.

Yes. It was me, you should have came over and said Hi. I had conducted an Exit interview with Consul Chief Spellberg earlier that afternoon. The Embassy generally likes receiving feed back from specialized tech professionals who had served on long-term assignments/agreements. It was a special surprise that Ambassador Galt joined us. You are not going crazy Jenny, it was me. :) My flight departs 10/13. Seems like just yesterday I arrived. I am beginning to understand how fleeting life is. Enjoy every moment of it everyone!

I was reading your expat path Hamish. You are having such an interesting life. So many countries. If I was a man, I would do exactly what you are doing. My family and I had dinner at the Monet restaurant also when we were there. Very nice. Great views. Stay away from the African women!! ;)

Have a safe trip Hamish. Pay attention to Saraangel's advice. Africa is not as American-friendly as Mongolia. You seem like a very sweet inquisitive fellow! I wish you continued health and may you find what you are searching for in life.

Grace

Have a safe journey Hamish. Looks like you are out of here in 4 days so may not get this. South Africa?? The money must be good!! You're picking one of the most dangerous places to go on earth. Somehow I think there may be an Expat blog on "WHY DO YOUNG AFRICAN LADIES SEEM TO DISPISE AMERICAN WOMEN? in our future, LOL Seriously, be careful and do not get too comfortable there, I have heard horror stories. Other than the indigenous people, my husband said white Afrikaners can be especially harsh with Americans because they remain bitter over the economic sanctions imposed upon them by the USA, ending Apartheid. Thank you for this forum Hamish. I am having a great time in Mongolia, and for some strange reason have no more problems? :) Well, maybe not so strange ;) I am very happy, and  remembered that happiness is never stopping to think if you are.

I now saw earlier this subject. I will speak. American girls who behave and treat us with respect are leaved alone. Girls who look down nose will have problem. I have seen American girl slapped once for no respect. I have not done. Behave and you will not be learned.

I_LUV-_STEPPE, I believe asked and answered. Your comments are very clear and understood however. :)

Hey Everyone! Thought I would drop a quick hello and advise that I am all settled in my apartment in Cape Town, South Africa. I am staying at the Carradale apartments in case any of you ever venture this direction. The Carradale is somewhat more pricey than I was looking for, however, gives a 25% discount for anyone contracted through my employer (could not refuse ;) I would be kidding you if I did not admit I am enjoying the 70 degree seaside weather here 😊 I have also been asked to join the mining indaba team which will hold an international event on February 5-8. I am looking very forward to it. Most of my work is conducted just northeast of Cape Town, so requires a minor sojourn to and from work each day, however getting acclimated to it. I am currently doing 60-70 hr. weeks, however, should decline to 40-50 in a couple of weeks.

So much for the boring stuff. I have not found Cape Town dangerous, however, I stay away from the townships, and do not frequent the seedier areas in the evening – the crime is very high in these areas. There are far too many safe places to explore and enjoy. I do get “hit up” by beggars often, or someone offering to watch my rental car, however that is basically it. It has taken me time to get used to the public transportation here, and starting to actually enjoy it (shows what you can get used to). Next month, along with a few of my work mates, we have booked a flight to Kruger National Park to go on a “Big 5” safari – can’t wait, and another line item I can scratch from my bucket list. Cape Town is somewhat cosmopolitan (i.e., wine regions, shopping, etc.), however, there exists an uncomfortable tolerance between the white Afrikaners and blacks. Surprisingly, there is also a large population of what is described as “Coloureds” (multiracial), and are slowly becoming the majority in Cape Town. I have been treated congenially by all three diverse groups during my visit. However, white Afrikaners 50+ seem to have little interest in communicating and show an evident disenchantment for Americans. The younger white Afrikaners do not seem to have this conflict. If I had to pick one thing which I was not prepared for (other than the ultra-spicy food), it is the preponderance of interracial dating and marriages in Cape Town – especially considering this was a country deeply divided by race only 40 years ago. Nearly every other couple is interracial. What was also peculiar, nearly every one of these interracial couples consisted of a younger black woman with a slightly older white Afrikaner - I see very few white Afrikaner women with black men (not sure why). Cape Town also has an amazing, lively nightlife. I finally made my visit to the legendary ThirtyOne Club and Planet Bar. Tried to get to the “Era Club”, which has been internationally touted for a decade, however understand that it is closing slowly and rarely open.

Well, time to get going, however, wanted to check-in and let everyone know how I am faring. I can say that although so far, so good – Africa does not tug at my soul as did the Land of the big Blue Sky! I miss Mongolia very much and think of this magic land everyday, and will never forget. God speed.

Hey Ham!! certainly didn't expect to hear from you again but glad you stopped by. I rarely check-in anymore, but was glad to see your post. I know nothing about Africa but sounds like a country in constant transition. Sounds as if you are getting established and making strides both professionally and socially. Enjoy! One day you will wake up relaxing in a soft-back in your living room in California, thinking, "those were the days". :)

Clancy

Well look who the cat drug in ;) Thank you for checking in Hamish. It means a lot. Sarangerel_UConn was so right when she said you have an interesting life. If you haven't done so already, sign up on the South African Expat.com forum. That is when things settle down and you have time. You are intelligent and a great communicator who will have much to share. Best of luck to you in your career path wherever your travels may take you. 😘

Hamish, good to see you landed with both feet on the ground. Not surprised. My family said Mongolia has been cold, cold cold. I am jealous of your 70°F African sun. Do not be one of the white men marring an African woman. Come back and marry a Mongolian woman ;) Happy you are safe and interested.

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