Hi!
I've never spitted out in public but I think it's better to reach out for some help instead of burying my head in sand.
Since last December, I found out I'm with dysthymia when one Taiwanese friend exposed his story on FB. I'm going through exact what he is saying for around 8 years (or more, I don't know). That is what you will end up after many years being a rebel in a very traditional Vietnamese with rules from ancient time like "you don't go out after 9, or you must not stand at the door cause it makes you like waiting for a guy coming" and an unsuccessful (if not severely bad) relationship for nearly 10 years.
Frankly to say, mental illness is nothing in Vietnam. There are only mad people who stay in mental hospitals or people like me dragging through life like pathetic losers. Besides, I was beautiful, attractive. I earned good money comparing to people at same age around me. I had time for myself, could go wherever I want whenever I need. I did exercise, sex everyday. Symptoms was very weak, totally ignored or unawared of. Hence, I have no idea about what I'm with until reading my friend's post last December.
I've studied more and found out I'm also an ADD person. That is very clear answer for "what was wrong about me?" and many bad decisions I've made which led me to this pathetic loser position now. English brought me to different cultures from Vietnamese's one and contributed to who I am, which somehow get me lost in life. But it also save me from killing myself when I can read information about my illness. Since it get worse during these 3 years, I've been asking myself why I am so lazy, wants to sleep all the time, lack of concentration, irresponsible,...
At my high pitch of life, I was self confident enough to sign freelancing contracts that brought me a lot of money. I'm a PR-Marketing & Business localization specialist as well as freelance writer/editor/interpreter. The last one with biggest money was the biggest failure when I signed just before I delivered my son. I thought I would back to work just 5 days or a week after my due day. I was wrong. I failed the contract which supposed to bring me VND 1bil and have a debt of VND500mil. After 1 year back to work, I paid VND200mil, half by making a load with bank.
I'm now a single mother of a 3yo boy.
As I have millions work to do since I wake up till I close my eyes, I have no time for myself, no music, no wine, no spa, no exercise, no social event. Stress from my parents, my family, my work, my financial status,...and depression because a perfectionist like me can't accept the fact that I'm left behind by my ex colleagues, my ex staffs after 3 years staying home; and I'm not attractive anymore with gorgeous body, skin & hair; and I've chosen a very wrong job (EA to CEO & Office Manger of a big company) which just gave me more burden for being unable to professionally fulfill my duties,... I'm drowning and would have died many times if my son wasn't there, literally waked me up & asked "Mommy! Are you ok? What are you talking to yourself?".
I know I have to quit my job and do something that is more suitable for an ADD person with dysthymia like me or I'm gonna forget that I have a son within next 10 years when he will be just 13. I want to survive and more, live happily with my son to take care of him, love him, until I can't.
Thank you for reading my long humming post until now. All the above is just a background for my question.
If I quit my job, I don't even have enough money to send my son to school. Paying the debt will be a mission impossible if I do simple jobs like being a nanny. I'm not even applicable to the job. I'm too old to be a waitress, too faithful to cheat for a walking ATM, too positive to die, to responsible to leave my son behind, too self-doubting to accept very good offers I'm having (also because I know I'm able to do a $3500 job now).
What should I do?
Thanks in advance for anyone trying to cheer me up or inspire me. Sadly & unluckily I'm fully aware about my situation now and what has been wrong with me for all the time (or luckily I know it after more than 30yrs of existence, not any later). I'm trying any way can help my feeling: cooking, gardening, make nice flower, praying, and so on. The point is is there anyway to keep me safe & soul while still doing hard job to have enough money for the debt? Or is there any simple job to release from stress but still earn good money? I'm also exhausted to pretend to be normal & ok for all day long. I feel very bad and some way I wish I had known what I am and hadn't decided to give birth to my son cause I will be very bad mother.
Thank you so much!