Cultural differences, or is he just a terrible boyfriend?

From a man, a very naughty one when I used to be young and handsome.

What a man falls for a girl he tends to want to be close, preferably very close ... a lot. Cultural issues can alter the way a relationship goes, but not to the level you're telling us.
When a man is stringing a girl along but doesn't really give a rats, he tends to hang around with his mates and/or other girls.

One piece of advice - Dump him.

Drop him if you value your self worth. If he wanted to be with you, he would make the effort instead of giving empty words.  You can do better I'd imagine.

I think Albanian/Kosovan men are generally not very sincere or respectful to their woman. (Sorry if this offends anyone but its my personal opinion)

I am married to an Alb guy and his family don't accept me, which is fine, I have no room for narrow minded bigots I my life anyway.

He socialises with cousins quite a bit, hates being told what to do by me, hates having to explain himself. He's selfish, immature and generally not very pleasant most of the time.

Why am I still married??? I ask myself this every day. I invested a lot of time, love and of course money into this and I hate to give up! And I do genuinely love him.
I also believe he loves me , but not enough and not in the same way.

Its getting more and more apparent that I might have to call it a day.

My hubby sits for hours in coffee shops, its their social thing. I don't have a problem with that but he never consults with me when making plans, just pleases himself.

He also always anxious and stressed out but given the circumstances surrounding our relationship and the fact he is yet again in the UK illegally I get that!

It means nothing to meet their friends.
My friend, an English girl also married to an Alb has lived in Albania with him at one point, knows all his family yet he constantly cheats taking the new bit on the side to meet friends and family! Not one of his friends or family have the humanity/decency to warn her that he's a cheat, they always smile sweetly to her face and then I guess laugh behind her back!

My advice...Find a fellow German!!! And run fast from this guy!
Its unfair to tar them all with the same brush as I have met a (very) few nice decent, honest Alb men.
But in any relationship culture difference does cause problems.

Beside this guy seems to have no time for you at all but plenty for his friends.
You are certainly not his priority.

Do better for yourself, don't waste your love on a man that cant give the same back to you.

Good luck x

My Boyfriend is Albanian  after a year we had a baby together, at the beginning it was ok but after few years you will see their real color , he complained about everything, he likes to lay down during the day , he doesn't know what he wants , he doesn't do anything and doesn't sounds like he cares about the future.

Ha I just saw this post that I wrote many years ago. Happy to report I'm still married and we are happy. He has changed a lot over the years and after actually leaving him he changed his ways and is now much more respectfully we are now married in her 6yrs.
Most of his alb friends are cheaters though

My advice.. run !
I met my husband here ,in UK . OBVIESLY  ILLIGAL .Me stupid .. he catch me with his nice words, and tears in eyes like he didn't see his family for couple years . We got married after a year of relationship.  . He got visa . After that he changed ..he never has time for me  but always find time for friends   .. never made any plans for us,didn't wanna even talk about kids ,no effection  also.  Always just him him him . Very selfish and childish  After 5 years of trying I gave up .. 2 month left for divorce . Hope karma gonna back to him one day

I know that's feeling I think albania man is not really romantic and they not really care much about woman , they love themselves to much and always look at the mirror . And they not really want to work hard really .  I

Even I myself as a Albanian male know it is a horrible idea to date a Albanian guy, my country has a lot of little boys but no manly men. My sister in fact is obviously also Albanian and she married a German American man, me and my family prefer him over any Albanian man because we know she wouldn't be this happy or successful if she chose a Albanian guy. My German brother in law who I am proud to call my brother in law is a amazing man, he is extremely smart, he knows how to cook everything, he is very good with house work he and my sister do everything together and he is a very good man. He and my sister are 100% soul mates, meant to be! My sister has always been a very hard working and out going woman, she has built a career so beautifully and is a very successful woman, she is wise and knows her self worth which is why she married a German/ American man who is faithful and loving to her instead of a Albanian little boy (Albanian males have a horrible education when it comes to marriage and how to treat a woman.) as I was saying, my sister is very wise, smart, intelligent on a whole other level, I am so glad god brought this man into her life, he is extremely wise just like her, extremely hard working just like her, you can even go as far to say that he is nerdy In a way but me and my parents smile bright when we see them together because we never have to worry about him hurting, lying, or cheating. He is a good faithful man, he doesn't have the concept “the woman doesn't the cooking and cleaning and stays home” NO! He cherishes the fact that my sister has a amazing career and they come home together after work and cook together, clean together, paint their walls together. So you see, I'm not trying to generalize the males from my country but as of recent decades there has been no MEN coming out of Albania, and if you are going to date a Albanian boy do not date one who is a immigrant, I know that sounds shitty to say but they were raised in a country where woman are not valued and is stuck in the 1800s, they were raised in a country where they believed they can go do degrading things while they expect their wife to be the virgin marry. As a Albanian man myself I'm telling you, the males of my country have disappointed us big time, I know it's not right to generalize but most Albanian men are the same and it all has to do with the oppressive male culture they are taught. I'm going to say it one last time I know it's not “logical” or smart to generalize a whole ethnicity of men but seriously they really are all the same. Every Albanian father I know tells their daughter to marry a foreign man who will love them and never betray them because even they know Albanian males are dead. I want to clarify that I am proud to be Albanian and I do love my country, and the love I have for my country is the reason why I accept it's flaws so they can change.

Hello! I am so happy that you are getting a divorce, I just made a reply to this young lady and I'd like you to read what I said to her. Even tho I am a Albanian male, the boys that come out of my country are a big disappointment, there is no Albanian man. As I was reading your comment I said “oh no why did she trust a illegal Albanian guy” that may sound shitty to some people but Albanians boys like that do not have good intentions. Idk why so many girls in England fall for Albanian males like that, it's clear when they are illegal and trying to get you to marry them it's not for good intentions. It's sad to say but when I as a Albanian guy know that Albanian guys are horrible. Again I would appreciate it if you could read my reply to the girl who told her story. Thank you!

Exactly most of his friends are cheaters, the fact that he still calls them “friends” is bad. I'd like for you to give me his friends Instagrams to teach them a lesson. It would mean a lot, I want to teach these people a lesson.

Oh trust me, he isn't just immature, self centered, lazy, rude, and unpleasant because “he is a illegal immigrant” he is like that because he is not a man and his culture teaches him that he can do what ever he wants while men have to “oppresse woman” even Albanian guys who are born and raised in your country are just like him because they are taught to be naughty, degraded, and hypocritical while they expect a women to stay a virgin to him even tho he's not and not cheat on him even tho he cheats on her just because “he is a man” Albanian males think they are men but they are not, a real man is romantic and faithful to his 1 woman. There's a famous saying in Albania that says “Albania has no men” because these aren't men these are degraded monsters. Run.

Oh ,wish to know all of that before I met him
Albanian know perfect how to lie and manipulate  till they get what they need;)

Thank you for saying the true about albanian mans.I was recently in a"relationship"with one..illegal immigrant,who told me after 6 months on waisting money and time on him  that he does not have any feeling for me,he tried but he can't.And he does not want a serious relationship but we still get married if i want to help him with his documents.well i said no of course...it just hurts to see so much indifference from him because i really have feeling for him.Anyway...thank you for making thinks clear about how Albanian mans are...this relationship made me feel so insecure,i got attached so fast and he discarded me just like that...no word from him for 2 weeks now..and probably i will never hear  from him again.

His name doesn't happen to be Amet by chance for it ?!

The one u had a baby with is his name Amet after a year by chance

No his name is not Amet and indon't have babies with him.

Omg is he's name Altin?

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