Expand your social circle in the USA

Hello everyone,

Moving to the USA means leaving one's family and friends behind. Creating a circle of friends or joining an existing one should therefore be paramount in order to fight loneliness in your host country.

But how can one develop a social network in the USA? Where and how to meet people there?

How easy is it to meet locals? What about cultural specificities?

Share your advice and experience!

Many thanks in advance,


People here are generally friendly so it's really not hard to start a conversation anywhere.
I am a mother of a 2 year old boy , and it wasn't hard for me to find groups of parents on social media.
I do a lot of research on the Internet about events in the city I am in and from there you can also find new friends/connection.

First of all:
  USA is now the "land of shrinking opportunities."

In the past 10 years, only the top 10% of population
in USA have improved their median net worth by 74%.
While the remaining 90% of population in USA
has their median net worth decimated.

If you are young, educated, well-connected, have
lots of potential inheritance back in your home
country, your country is stable, and have good skills:
    It is best that you just stay in your home country.
    The economic growth rate alone, and your
    country's stronger family bond are probably
    enough to convince you to stay in your home country.

IF you are still stubborn, hard-headed, and
still want to visit USA, then realize that:
   USA is no longer "a melting pot."
   USA has become a "salad bowl."

Everyone has their "circle of friends" due to
similarity in cultural background, race, age, sexual
orientation, and political affiliation.
So when you arrive to America, make sure you find
yourself a club, church, social group that you
may and feel fitting in -- then do your best to
stick with that group.  You need to have a
"tribal mentality" if you want to survive in USA.

The typical American espouses individualism mentality.
So make sure you find, and make friends with those
who have stronger collectivism mentality.
Those who have stronger collectivism culture
up-bringing are usually the ones who can
help you out, bail you out, and save you
financially when you are in trouble.

This is because the typical American only has
US$1000 in savings in their bank account. So the typical
American will NOT be able to AFFORD  to help you
IF you happen to be in financial trouble
(even if he really wants to help you).
Most will NOT even let you sleep in their house,
say if your spouse or girlfriend kicks you out
from your own house, for example.

Divorce rates in USA hovers around 50% in small towns,
and 75% in large cities.  So expect lots of younger
generation Americans to lack decency, stubborn,
hard-headed, "me, me, me, me, me" mentality,
lack of respect, and lower levels of empathy.
For most younger generation Americans,
they do NOT have a "father figure" in their lives,
and most have never tasted "discipline by the belt."

Priscilla, agree with you. Leaving your friends and family behind makes you start looking for a new circle of friends. What helped me is a BNI group (Business Networking International), you have to have a business or represent a business to be there but in a short time I gained more than 25 friends there. Also going to local Chamber of Commerce luncheons with BNI expands your network. There is an app and you can find specific meetings in your area to network with. Also when I started my business from home I tapped into the largest network of women who are doing what I am doing and it created friendships,  rapport and support. It's out there, you jut have to make a decision to do it. Good luck!!!

You have to go out and do things with your leisure time. If you enjoy cooking, take a class. Dancing? Take a class. Riding a mountain bike? Join a local group. There's tons of stuff going on around the hobbies or interests you already have, you just have to seek them out. Once there, it's easy to make friends because you already have something in common.

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