I'm going to ask one of those questions that you may have heard a thousand times. Still, I'd like some up-to-date personal narratives or advice from experience: I'm wondering if it's possible or common to have the Vietnamese family of one's finance come out swinging against her marrying a foreigner. How tough can these circumstances be? Let me add: what if you skip the traditional expectations of the family, such as the fancy traditional parties? I am not so familiar with VN. I'm not into the traditional stuff but my fiancé seems both anxious to, and scared, to do it the way she wants and hasn't sprung this relationship on her family yet. I'm out-of-the-loop and open to doing what's necessary. However, I think because I don't live there, and am usually in and out of there on business, doing things the step by step way have become hard. Neither of us are in our 20s, although she still lives with her family. Another VNese friend of mine scared me by telling me that it's possible her family will hate me and be extremely difficult. I'd love to read some experiences. I've no idea.