Hi! I'm Tina, almost 30 & Latina. I have lived in Chengdu for the past 3 years and recently decided that it was time to move on. The main reason being that I do want to settle down in the relatively near future and I feel like I can't get the stable income, regular hours or the handsome guy for that to become a reality. Other than that, I love Chengdu and would stay forever, but it can be lonely & I find local Chinese guys tend to be rather traditional (I'm politely saying narrow minded and somewhat perverted) and the foreign guys are generally either gross or taken (love sleeping around or basically practically married already). I'm not saying everyone but enough that I've given up trying here.
I'm not racist though I have a preference for asian but I'm not super skinny or tiny & I tend to go from kind of yellow to quite tan at times. I do think I'm attractive but living in Chengdu has made me doubt it more than once.
So I hope you guys can tell me:
Where to meet new people in Shenzhen? That isnt in bars or clubs...
Are the asian guys super traditional/narrow minded or more open to foreigners? How about people in general? I've made a lot of close friends in CD and I'd like to make more in SZ (my Mandarin is not bad).
How is the interracial -chinese/foreign- dating scene in SZ? how about amongst foreigners? (like in Chengdu most medical students & uni students now prefer other foreigners. The whole "asian fetish" vibe has dissipated somewhat except in some key trashy demographics)
What are people my age doing in SZ? I'm generally assumed to be 22-24 but I'm kind of bored by the party life style now.
Hobby wise, can I find book clubs, film festivals, dance parties/schools, cheap swimming pools, hiking/camping groups? Is it realistic to meet people through dance troupes, art galleries, tattoo shops, at live music shows? I like meeting people through shared hobbies and activities.
What is a good place to live for a not quite 30 year old who looks and acts super young but isnt crazy about the bar scene? I think I will be near the luohu area (SZ is way bigger than Chengdu so I cant remember but I thought my friends house is about 4 stops/2 lines from luohu border to HK and I had planned to move relatively near to her)
Basically I'm looking to move to some place for the next year with the intention of meeting someone fabulous and getting a good job so I can settle down and have a family. Ideally I'd like to do that in China but if it doesnt work out I will move on to another country (for example, I've dated quite a few local chinese guys and it usually turns into a "but you are foreign so you must be a slut" or a "my parents could never accept you" or a "I love you so much and want to spend all the time with you... as your friend" thing ~oh, and also, a LOT of 21y/o's think I'm the best thing ever but I prefer grown ups~ as for foreign guys, a lot just want to sleep around, "try out" tiny/short asian girls, or they simply go home after a few months). So basically I'm asking you guys if you think SZ is a decent place for dating as a foreign girl and what the environment is really like.
The dating scene in Chengdu is pretty depressing: young chinese guys (19-23ish) really love foreign girls, the older guys want to try us out (once a guy stared at me across a bar all night. When he finally got up the courage to approach me his pick up line was "I want to f#*$ you" followed by "I REALLY want to f you" when I just stared at him). The foreign guys are similarly impressive/depressing in general but a LOT of fit model types here.