Hello all,
1st time poster, I'm Seamus and I've been in Vietnam about a year firstly motorbiking solo the length and breadth of the country now blissfully settled into ex-pat life in Saigon down near Phu My Hung.
In the past few months I have started dating and while I understand and accept the differences culturally etc the one thing that I am very not comfortable at all with is girls going through my iphone, computer etc being nosey and trying to find something that sparks an incident of ridiculous jealousy, apologies, distrust etc.
My business is technology and data security is paramount now more than ever, for someone that I am close to / dating to use an excuse/reason to get my passwords / pins then go fishing is a gross abuse of trust and a pointless exercise as I have nothing to hide and/or I catch their clumsy efforts or they go crazy over a picture of me taken with another random girl 8 months ago and then have to backtrack and apologise and the whole bloody thing is getting tedious.
Is this common?
How do others deal with this?
Why is this happening and how do i best put a firm halt to it without seeming suspicious or anal retentive?
It's starting to put me off dating local girls who in all other respects seem absolutely lovely.
If this is how it goes when you are not even the bf then...
Hate to start here with a rant and a moan as I absolutely love the place in so many regards but this particular quirk seems to have hit a nerd raw nerve.
Any advice or solace from wiser more experienced heads than my own?
Cheers
S