Just got into reading this thread and I was shocked. While my fiance and I were waiting for her visa approval I was sending her $200 a month. This was for her and her daughter. This covered her food, fuel for her moped and the monthly "contribution" to her daughter's teachers. She did not really work as she is older and was unable to find a decent job. She did do some occasional work doing nails and knitting hats, scarfs, etc. She really lived pretty good in Nha Trang. The $800 a month being sent to a friend is very exorbitant. And do you really think she isn't working, considering it is difficult to find time to converse online? Yes, you are being taken. Open your eyes and think with the big head, not the small head.