All,
I am an American living and working long time in China, (over 16 years). I am also a recovered alcoholic, (12 years), and am familiar with the manner and means of an ex-pat's life who imbibes daily in China and seeks the comfort of the working girls. It wears on you. You may not know it, but one of the first signs of spiritual decay is loss of your sense of humor.
The last weekend I was with my family, Chinese wife and 3 year old son. He was riding on top of my shoulders and we were walking a busy little street in Fu Tian when I spotted two laowais standing alone in the throng of Chinese people. One of them must'a been over 6'6. Thinking I would be friendly I walked up to them and with a smile remarked, "Boy you two look kind'a out of place-how's it going?" Nothing. So I shrugged my shoulders and carried on to the nearby DVD store. Ten minutes later, the shorter laowai of the two, appeared and stood three inches from my nose and started calling me names and threatening me, claiming he is NOT out of place as he had been here 8 years. Recognizing a kindred spirit -albeit practicing alkie- I didn't argue or let him know I'd been here twice that long, (not that that has anything to do with anything), and agreed and apologized and told him "thank you". Mind you, I would have said anything to keep my family safe.He was an American. It is unfortunate but the biggest problem I have ever had with my long stay in China is with other Americans. There is a deep routed attitude of entitlement that gets severly twisted when plied daily with drugs and alcohol. In any event, should this story be about YOU or you don't think life in China is fun anymore or perhaps you might drink too much, let it be known that there IS a solution. Shenzhen has an Alcoholic Anonymous and has been meeting for over 6 years at the same location. aashenzhen.com. Thankyou.
Concerned Human