I have known an Egyptian widow woman living in the Nile delta region of Tanta for the past 4 years.
Earlier this year I asked her to marry me and she agreed but with the condition that her daughter gets married first.
The woman has 4 children in total,one daughter 28 years old is married, a son 21 years old who is single another son who is 14 and finally a daughter who is 25 years old and unmarried.
I have repeatedly asked where and why this ruling comes from but the only explanation I have been given is that Egyptian tradition says it is bad luck for an Egyptian widow to marry before her daughter.
In the 4 years I have known this woman her two eldest unmarried children have always watched and cencored everything I say and do when I am with my lady friend. I am not allowed to touch her other than to shake hands, I can't sit next to her in the car.
I can't visit her house though I was once invited for a meal at Easter last year.I have never been allowed to go out with her socially...though I have been on holiday with the whole family once.
We are not even allowed to get engaged until after the daughter has married.
The daughter has shown no interest in boys for the 4 years I have known her and for all I know could never marry.
I have tried getting this 'daughter marries first' ruling changed many times but without success. I once did get the daughter to agree to allow her mother and I to get married first but her brother over ruled her and said they had to stick with tradition.
I can't find any reference to this tradition anywhere and none of my Egyptian friends have come across this before.
Quite a few of my Egyptian friends have told me I will have to pay the family to be allowed to marry..though no body from the family have ever mentioned this
Can anyone enlighten me on this matter.
Thanks
Jan