Hardest decision of my life..i need advice.

Hi 1on1,

You are actually talking about change that will happen in your life, a change that is associated with loss; this makes me remember a few words for Paulo Coelho saying that:

"When faced by any loss, there's no point in trying to recover what has been, it's best to take advantage of the large space that opens up before us and fill it with something new. In theory, every loss is for our good"

You have got to see which way would you prefer to go, and which way you better see yourself in.

My personnal opinion is to go to London, to be together with the man that you choose, this might be the company of your life so don't let it go.

Good Luck with whichever decision you may make

Regards,

thanks..i will need to decide one way or the other..so far i am only seeing the fear of something going wrong with my relocation and me losing my home which i could not get back..its giving me such stress right now i dont know if i even have a question to ask or just an opportunity to get all my stress out..i hope i make the right decision in the end..having few options in life has severly limited my options in this particular case..but i hope to better my life at some point in the future.

I think we create our own fear by thinking about negative outcomes to whatever we want to do. If we can cause this feeling to ourself, it make sense that we can also change it.

If you manage to replace your negative thoughts with thoughts of successful outcome, this will help lower your fears.

I totally understand the confusion you are in at the moment but you have got to choose based on your priorities and interests and either ways, risk is there just be positive about tomorrow as it may be carrying the best for you ... who knows???!!!

I hear you completely.. I must tell you I was in the same situation as you are now. 3yrs ago I was working in united states was in a good position.. doing great at work, settled etc. I got married and had to move to the country where my husband lived.. It was a tough decision.. we are in UK now and the present market situation sucks. I am still jobless and at home.. I always dream about the life i had, being independent and had everything in my control.
Although I am enjoying my married life but at the same time cant do justice to my career which i have lost.
I know i couldn't give a solution for you but think wisely life is not bed of roses.. think about the circumstances you would have to face moving to different country and would you be fine to be home or do something different than what you were doing all your life..Hmmmm to tell you i liked being in US much better than living in uk. But if your heart says you would be happy with the person you love and that would be enough for life.. just go for it!! This is what i felt 3years ago and i did it... maybe you can do it too!
Good luck!

vi2009-

I cant tell you how supportive your response was...its really nice to hear from someone who's gone through it. I know its basically a one-way road for me (ie going to UK) as i will have severed my ties from my past more or less...but i reckon at the end of the day,i wont know what i'm missing until i try it out. I've been hearing of the lousy economy all across europe..i guess one reaches a point when one just can't wait any longer..

and your right about how we think grass is always greener elsewhere..its living in the hope that things could be better for you if only you could try something new, at this point, try i will.

with thanks
1on1