Grow your network and make new friends
Being a lone wolf and thinking that you can do everything on your own is brave, but also a little short sighted and is often where first timers hit their personal brick wall.
Fellow expats and local people can help you feel more at home and can provide a support network for much-needed advice. Many expats have made mistakes already, have the battle scars to show for it, and are willing to share their experiences with you in order to prevent you from falling into the same traps.
Finding a support network is also great for your morale — when a situation is bleak or impossible, your friends can help you to make light of it, while guiding you towards the right decision. There are many ways to meet people in a new country, including joining groups, societies, and attending events.
Local authorities or organisations
Don't be afraid to contact your local authority or specific organisation to ask for advice on an issue, or to find out more information. Many public and private organisations provide tailored advice for residents.
You can learn your rights as a tenant, get advice on how to resolve a dispute with your landlord or housemate, and find out the conditions under which a contract is legal. You can get debt advice, find out how to apply for a loan or other grants you may be eligible for, learn how to set yourself up as self-employed, etc.. You should also learn your rights as an employee or whether you are applicable for government unemployment allowance. You can seek advice on how to resolve ongoing issues with your employer or colleagues.
There are also many charities and public organisations that support anyone suffering from mental or physical health issues.
If you are unsure which group to speak to in your area, contact your local council or government body who will advise you on the best services and will provide the necessary contact details.
Carry out research
If there is one thing that first-time expats should adopt as a mantra to life abroad, it is to always do your research. For example, if you are signing a contract and some of the clauses seem strange to you, familiarise yourself with the domestic laws, contact an advice organisation, or speak to some of your acquaintances or friends to see if they know more about the subject. Never proceed with or commit to anything without being fully aware of all the facts, and never feel pressured to rush into anything that you are uncomfortable with. Remember that information is the power to act in the most responsible way for any given situation.
Be street smart
Many expats can lose their common sense when they first move to a new place, which can sometimes cloud their otherwise good judgement. A trick to manage everyday tasks that seem difficult or distressing is to pause and ask yourself a simple question: "Would I do this in my own country?" If there is even the smallest doubt, stop and reflect on what you are doing, and don't be afraid to change your strategy if needed. Another key tip is to always listen to your instincts, as they will rarely let you down — if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
Unpleasant situations expats find themselves in
Shaky employee rights
Problem: After going to a job interview, you hear from the employer that you have been hired, but they don't give you a contract to sign. You are happy because you are getting a wage, but you know it's wrong to not have a contract. You wait a few weeks without bringing the contract up because you are worried about being fired or not being able to find another job.
Solution: It is most likely illegal for an employer to not give you a legally recognised contract. During those weeks that you wait, you have no protection — if you are unfairly treated at work, you are fired improperly, or if your employer changes their mind on the agreed terms (including wage and any other benefits), you won't be able to take any legal action. It is absolutely reasonable to ask your employer for a contract and to seek advice from a third party to resolve the situation.
Dodgy landlords
Problem: You are desperate to find a place to live as soon as possible and you come across the perfect apartment online. The owner confirms that it's available immediately. However, they say they are out of the country for the time being, but, if you send them the deposit, they will get someone to give you the keys. Even though it doesn't feel right, you really want to move out of your expensive hotel.
Solution: This sounds like a scam. Never hand over money without signing a contract and having the keys in your hand. It is also always wise to first arrange a viewing of the property, meet the owner, and ask for a copy of their I.D before committing to the property.
Mounting food budget
Problem: Whether you live in a big city or a tiny village, your nearest supermarket happens to be very expensive, and your money is draining quickly. Thus, you eat less and less good quality food, and you have to sacrifice other leisure activities or outings.
Solution: In cities, the food market is quite competitive, so there is always a supermarket for your budget and needs. Instead of walking aimlessly around your area, use the internet or ask people to learn about supermarkets near to you. Many supermarkets offer home delivery, which is a great solution if you live in a big city or an isolated area and don't have the means to travel long distances.
In short, act like you would in your own country; be street smart, find support groups, and know your rights before you make an important decision. If you approach anything in a rational and informed way, you will quickly acclimate and become the mature expat that is advising the new fresh-faced arrivals.
